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09 August 2011 @ 10:42 am
Hello World,  

i’m fat. i wear size 18/20 jeans. i’m squishy. i wear a 40D bra. my thighs touch.
i have taken abuse for being fat, just like every other fat person in the USA. for years i was insecure about it. but in recent years i’ve been taking my body back. i do not consider myself to be pretty, but i am not under the illusion that being thinner would make me pretty.
also, i am not unhealthy. i do not eat a steady diet of nothing but cheeseburgers and junk food. being fat does not equal being unhealthy like everyone wants us to believe. people want to believe that being fat automatically makes one unhealthy so that they can feel justified in the persecution of fat people. fat hate is a form of prejudice that goes almost completely unchallenged and is in fact supported by society and the media.
being fat is a part of who i am, but it does not define my existence. i am a fat chick, but that is not all i am. i’m a complete human being, with plenty of quirks and qualities that are completely unrelated to my squishiness.
then again, many of my quirks and qualites ARE related to living a life of squishiness- for example:
-a general immunity to being called ugly, and other petty insults
-a certain degree of empathy towards anyone who has been treated unfairly
-a personal code that involves a refusal to bully people and/or act like a superior bitch and/or walk around acting like my shit doesn’t stink
-et cetera.

i won’t lie and say i still don’t have issues accepting my body the way it is.
but i’ve never had a problem accepting anyone else’s body the way it is.

i don’t look at anyone else’s body and instantly form an opinion on how they should or shouldn’t change it. i know i have no right to impose my own standards/insecurities/hangups on them. i know i have no right to tell a person what to do with their body. and i don’t want those rights either.

furthermore, i don’t think fat is ugly.
i am fat.
i am not ugly because of it.

my boyfriend is fat.
my best friend is fat.
my sister is fat.
my mom is fat.
none of them are ugly.
all of them are beautiful.

you might want to rebut my statement by saying my views of their physical beauty is contaminated by my feelings for them. while it may be true that, because i love them all so dearly, i could never see any of them as ugly, i did think my boyfriend and best friend were beautiful before i knew them.
that’s number one.
number two, there are plenty of fat, beautiful strangers out there. you yourself may be one of them.

then again, you may be one of the people who will look at one of the many beautiful fat people i know and call them disgusting, and make jugdgements about not only their eating/excersizing habits, but their personalities and general worth. while that, understandably, pisses me off to a horrific degree, i am willing to keep my shit together and not bitch anyone out unless something nasty is said or done. sound fair? good.

i am not willing, however, to keep my mouth shut about this issue- because whenever i see fat hate, i see red. when you talk shit about fat people, you are talking shit about:
*my boyfriend
*my best friend
*my sister
*my mom
*plenty of other awesome people
and that is not fucking okay.

let’s say, for example, your sister has a fake tan.
i find them unattractive.
i say something like, “eew i saw some fake’n’bake bitch at the mall today, what a skank, doesn’t she know that shit will give her skin cancer? dirty cunt. i bet she has herpes. ugly orange oompa loompa. she needs to go kill herself.”
how does that make you feel?
does that make you want to punch my teeth down my throat?
now, i would never say anything like that.
and i wouldn’t be thinking it, either.
that was just something i dreamed up, based on the kind of nasty shit i’ve heard and/or read that assholes say about fat people.

kindly think about that the next time you open your mouth to spew shit about fatness.

♥,
Kathleen.

ps: don’t call me “obese,” i’m chunky not diseased. i’m officially taking back the word “fat.” it’s an adjective, not an insult in and of itself.

 
 
 
 
 
the_flowergirl: Kat 'n Rianthe_flowergirl on August 9th, 2011 04:45 pm (UTC)
My thighs touch too, but I just thought I had huge thighs.

Ugliness comes in all forms. With me, it's usually about who you are more than what you look like. It always has been. (I'm the only one that thought my fat cousin was pretty before all her surgeries.) Skinny people can be ugly and fat people can beautiful. It's all about how you carry yourself. And I don't judge either.
awhitemothflew: avatarawhitemothflew on August 23rd, 2011 01:55 pm (UTC)
that whole rant was really about the rampant fat hatred going on on tumblr (i recently got a blog there). it had been a while since i'd encountered it... i had to say my piece, you know? there's this vile stuff called "thinspiration" that is supposed to inspire people on diets to lose weight... most of it is pretty harmless, just pictures of ridiculously skinny bony women. but there is a lot of "you're disgusting, put down the fork, you're worthless unless you're skinny" shit going on and it infuriates me. and it's exactly how you said: a person's weight is not a qualifier for being either ugly or beautiful. it's the whole picture.
kairiheart14kairiheart14 on September 9th, 2011 02:05 am (UTC)
I think that "fat" people can be beautiful, because looks don't really matter in the real world. If you want to be a hooker or a stripper, or enter in pagents, then yes, that matters. But in the real world, you won't get a job, just because you have a pretty face. You'll be hired because of the abilities you have, and what you are capable of doing.

Besides, that doesn't matter. What matters is what's on the inside, not on the out.